A short book by Jamie Lord · JammTrain

You don't find your dream job. You co-create it.

Most teams don't fail on talent. They fail on the small habits of hiring and leading. Love Letters at Work is eight practical ways to hire better, lead with clarity, and build teams that actually stay.

You can't train your way out of a bad job fit.

Over sixteen years of training, coaching and developing people, JammTrain has learnt something uncomfortable. You can coach. You can motivate. You can send someone to a leadership programme. But if a person's natural characteristics and motivations clash with what the role actually requires, everyone ends up working uphill: the employee, the manager, and you.

So the book follows one simple order:

Attract first. Assess first. Then develop.

The eight tools

Each one is small. Each one compounds. Every chapter ends the same way: one thing you can do today to move the needle tomorrow. Pick one and start this week.

  1. The 6-LOVVERS Morning Ritual

    You can't write love letters to your team from an empty pen. Six focused minutes on waking: Let's breathe, One affirmation, Victories yesterday, Visualising today, Exercise, Read, Send gratitude. Six to sixty minutes, depending on the day. The six minutes are borrowed, with thanks, from Steve Chandler's Time Warrior.

    Today: tomorrow, before you touch your phone, run all seven, even at the six-minute pace.

  2. The Mutual Seduction

    Hiring is not an inspection. It's a two-way alignment of expectations. Traditional recruitment starts with a dance of exaggeration: the employer oversells the role, the candidate inflates their past. Both focus on winning the courtship rather than surviving the marriage. Replace it with radical clarity. Sell the truth of the role, not the glamour.

    Today: in your next hiring conversation, ask: "What part of this role might frustrate you, and how would we navigate that together?"

  3. Water-Tight MVPs, with a Joy Agreement

    Ditch the three-page job description. Name the three to five Most Valuable Priorities that actually define success. "Responsible for managing client relationships" becomes "Achieve a 95% client retention rate across Q3 and Q4." Alongside sits the Joy Agreement: what the person needs to feel fulfilled, supported and energised. It's the first place the relationship stops being transactional.

    Today: strip the fluff from one role and write its top three MVPs for this quarter.

  4. The You-Meeting

    A weekly fifteen-minute one-to-one that checks in, not up. It's theirs, not yours. The best manager Dr Terry Paulson ever had took him for a walk every Wednesday at 3pm and asked the same question: "What's working for you?" The first time, Paulson thought: nothing. By the third week he was collecting small wins all week just to have an answer ready.

    Today: book a recurring 15-minute walk with one person, same time weekly, and ask what's working for them.

  5. The ALOVE Weekly Team Agenda

    The You-Meeting is a private letter. ALOVE is the letter your whole team writes together, once a week.

    AAcknowledge
    LLast week
    OOne thing
    VVictories & lessons
    EExciting ahead

    Today: at your next team meeting, acknowledge someone in the room, then ask: "What progress did we make last week that we haven't said out loud yet?"

  6. Involved Recognition

    Move past "good job." Vague praise is a warm handshake that leaves no fingerprint. Name what they did, how, for whom, why it mattered, and how the team benefited, so the behaviour repeats. Jamie learnt these five steps in person from John Hersey.

    Today: recognise one person this week with the full five steps instead of a throwaway thanks.

  7. Performance Previews

    Replace the dreaded annual review with a twice-yearly conversation that's 80% about the future. Glance back briefly for lessons, then look forward with three questions: Hope, Fear, Learn. Then co-create the roadmap.

    Today: put a 45-minute Performance Preview in your calendar with one person. Five minutes on the past, then pivot forward.

  8. The Anchor Habit

    Across all of it, one move comes first: acknowledgement. See the person before you talk about the work. That's where love at work begins.

What a love letter at work looks like

Here's a note Jamie wrote to Paul, a member of his own team, after Paul ran a class while Jamie was on leave. Watch it move through all five recognition steps.

"Paul, thank you for taking the helm while I was on leave. You led the facilitation of a full class for one of our long-term clients, and you did it so well that I handed out gold stars, supported a couple of the group exercises, and otherwise stayed out of your way. The participants rated it 100% excellent or very good, our highest evaluations yet, and the client was so inspired they asked on the spot to schedule the next session. You protected a relationship we've built over years and showed the client the very best of us while I was away. You did it for me, you did it for the business, and you did it for your own growth as a leader. Keep leading by great example."

The words cost nothing. But Paul now knows exactly what he did, why it mattered, and that he should do it again.

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The Executive Field Guide walks the whole arc, from the first job ad to the twice-yearly conversation that keeps your best people staying. Every tool comes with one move you can make today.

What leaders say about JammTrain

"Supported our Gold Medal Win at the 2023 Australian Training Awards. Revenue is up. Staff retention is up. Thank you JammTrain."Paul Kahlert, CEO, All Purpose Transport
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Recognition

Every tool rests on the right hire.

Get the hire right, and the You-Meetings, the recognition and the previews all have something to build on. If you're hiring a critical role, or wrestling with an appointment that isn't working, let's have a 20-minute chat.